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nanoreefer22

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Gonna try to make this as short as possible. At the beggining of the semester we rode home together...didn't really know her at all, it was bad really bad...she's more quiet than me. So after that I gave up on her after trying to liven things up a bit.

Low and behold she starts talking to me this past week, so I'm thinking ok maybe shes gotten better. We talk and talk some more and we can actually hold a convo and have fun. Not sitting there like zombies..mind you this is online. This time she asks me to ride home with her and of course I'm all for it. Weekend was fun filled with her in it.

Today I meet up with her after class and once again its "dud"....I dont know what happened but there was quite a bit of silence in there. Now she did ditch a friend to take the train with me...but I dunno what too do...shes quieter than me and thats never a good thing so that really doesnt help me out much.

I wanna make this one work if its possible just need to get more convo going other than that I think its ok. Any tips for a young kid???
 
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Aww come on man.... If you have to work this hard to get a date going it's not worth it. You are not looking to get married or anything right ?? If she doesnt come around move on. Just say something to her. Dont get all mushy and crap but tell her in some way that you are interested in her. If she acts up F... her friend. It works for me.

And dont go buying chicks expensive sh*t either until you KNOW its working out. No wearing each others jewels and borrowing cash. Sure sign of abuse. Now get to pimpin' ....

Kasei
 
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I hope you did not use any of the "fish geek" pick up lines........ :)
I know that I will get shot down for this by our female counterparts but the key to success is to diversify. A couple of no's will eventually lead to a yes somewhere down the line.

The reason why I say is cause you are young. Check out the world, play and experiment the different flavors we all have been given because there will come a time where you have to pick your favorite flavor and stick to it.

I say this because I have tried all of the flavors and I have liked many of them but there was one that just happened to be my favorite! Now I have my favorite flavor for the rest of my life and I am happy!

Its like all of the stuff you keep in your tank. The variety is great and its ever increasing. You sell some, you trade some and you share some. But eventually there will be that one piece that you treasure. (your favorite)

Dont get to serious for now. Just enjoy and be safe. But keep in the back of your mind that there are three things that you absolutely must have in equal proportions that must be kept in balance between your partner and yourself. Thre three compatibilities:
1. Emotional compatibility
2. Intellectual compatibility
3. Sexual compatibility

And then there comes the final piece of advice. COMPROMISE - search for someone that likes what you like and where you differ is where you have to meet each other half way.

Good luck bro!!!
 
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Pseudo, hoW can yoU say that to Kris... he looooovvvee hEr :joke: :lol:

KriS, when yoU ask her if she wants somethin' in a cafe, then maYbe yoU can buy her lunch or cappuccino and you two caN sit and spEnd MORE time together over food :) liKe i always say... food is a great ice-breaker :kiss:
 
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Pseudo said:
Aww come on man.... If you have to work this hard to get a date going it's not worth it. You are not looking to get married or anything right ?? If she doesnt come around move on. Just say something to her. Dont get all mushy and crap but tell her in some way that you are interested in her. If she acts up F... her friend. It works for me.

And dont go buying chicks expensive sh*t either until you KNOW its working out. No wearing each others jewels and borrowing cash. Sure sign of abuse. Now get to pimpin' ....

Kasei
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Only a tru pimp could do this ;). Married not for a loooooonnnnnnnnggg time. I'm not one for the mushy role some messing around here and there. You know just little hints. I really just wanted to say something today but seemed reallllyyy odd with the way it was moving along. I think shes interested tooo but when you put some quiet peoples together, doesn't seem to work out. Now that you mention her it, her friend does look pretty damn good :cool:

I'm broke on a regular basis, not good all the time but it doesn't bother me. Sucks that her bdays next weekend :lol:. I'll try to get to pimpin'. Just need a damn way to move on in, my mind shut down on me a little.

-Kris
 
Pseudo

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Buy her lunch ???? Man you dont know her. If the convo is a no go a free meal is out of the question. She better be a Hally or an Angelina for that crap to go down.
 
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Even a true pimp has his favorite!!! You guys all realize we are going to get shot down with our comments right. I tried to word it nicely and mildly like Ruth & phil & oprah but know we just have to be pimps about it. Well guys will be guys always using their heads to think......
 
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inkblue said:
Pseudo, hoW can yoU say that to Kris... he looooovvvee hEr :lol:

KriS, when yoU ask her if she wants somethin' in a cafe, then maYbe yoU can buy her lunch or cappuccino and you two caN sit and spEnd MORE time together over food liKe i always say... food is a great ice-breaker :kiss:
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Bad thing is I'm broke =\. Still if it isn't going anywhere is it worth the few dollars :lol:?

Whats this " somethin' " your referring tooo?? :lol: Is it the food..
 
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nanoreefer22 said:
Bad thing is I'm broke =\. Still if it isn't going anywhere is it worth the few dollars :lol:?

Whats this " somethin' " your referring tooo?? :lol: Is it the food..
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If youre broke. I got two words for you : Sugar Mama
 
nanoreefer22

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hermangareis said:
I hope you did not use any of the "fish geek" pick up lines........ :)
I know that I will get shot down for this by our female counterparts but the key to success is to diversify. A couple of no's will eventually lead to a yes somewhere down the line.

The reason why I say is cause you are young. Check out the world, play and experiment the different flavors we all have been given because there will come a time where you have to pick your favorite flavor and stick to it.

I say this because I have tried all of the flavors and I have liked many of them but there was one that just happened to be my favorite! Now I have my favorite flavor for the rest of my life and I am happy!

Its like all of the stuff you keep in your tank. The variety is great and its ever increasing. You sell some, you trade some and you share some. But eventually there will be that one piece that you treasure. (your favorite)

Dont get to serious for now. Just enjoy and be safe. But keep in the back of your mind that there are three things that you absolutely must have in equal proportions that must be kept in balance between your partner and yourself. Thre three compatibilities:
1. Emotional compatibility
2. Intellectual compatibility
3. Sexual compatibility

And then there comes the final piece of advice. COMPROMISE - search for someone that likes what you like and where you differ is where you have to meet each other half way.

Good luck bro!!!
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True. Shes amazingly lively when we arent face to face. As soon as we are she won't stop looking down occasionally lookin up at me. I mean like 5 times on a 30 min ride did i see her eyes. :lol:
 
Pseudo

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Who cares if it's her birthday.... Man get her a card and hand it to her and say something sweet and move on quickly.. It will make her think. Anyone that buys gifts for a person that they are not involved with (even if you in love) shows that you are willing to buy thier attention and sends the wrog message. Wining and dining are great if you get together and there is a rule to that too.

You can get as extravagant as you want to with them as long as you dont expect nothing in return. So the idea is to try to do stuff that you enjoy so it isn't a total loss.

But I am getting ahead of you here. Thats for when you are getting some action.
 
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