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JimmyR1rider

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To all of my friends on here. My mom had a massive heart attack last night and was on life support overnight.

She passed away this morning just before 9am. I have no problem admitting I was a mamas boy. She raised me alone through my adolescent, teenage years on after my dad passed away she I was in 8th grade.

Wish I could have been a better son. Wish I didn't get impatient with her while taking care of her nursing back to health the knee injury she had and in general and wish I had never been short tempered and grumpy with her. She had a huge heart. Wish she would have been able to enjoy years in this new house. She was 99% of who the house was intended for, not me. Wanted her to have a nice roof over her head with no worries of bills. As well as that trailer I bought her with my retirement money last year. I wanted her to enjoy the best life after retirement she could. All tha was ripped from her yesterday.

She had her first physical therapy session for her knee yesterday. An injury that had her bedridden and then in a wheelchair. I guess the extra stress of getting around with a bum leg was too much.

After her PT session I drove her home and she started having chest pains a bit later. I called for an ambulance and she passed while I was staring out the window for the bus to come down the driveway. As a first responder for 13+ years I can not believe I didn't realize she wasn't breathing and had thought she just had found a comfortable spot and was breathing easy to take away her chest pain.

When the medics got here we went to get her up and we realized she had coded. I helped with CPR and ventilated her(forced air in her lungs) while they did compressions and pushed drugs.

They restored a pulse and low blood pressure last night and found out and caused her heart attack, it was one of the stents they out in 8 years ago. Well I got the dreaded phone call.

The hospital called me at around 8:15 this morning and said I needed to get back that they believed my mom was on her way out. She passed between the phone call and me arriving with my aunt Mary. It was the hardest thing to do in my life as her health care proxy to enact a DNR on her last night but she had signs of brain damage from the few minutes I didn't realize she had coded and she crashed multiple times and the nurse practitioner said there was nor foreseeable good outcome.


SUSAN CURRAN 10/25/1949 - 1/07/2014.
RIP mom, taken to soon.
 

cmantis

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I am very sorry. Life is to precious but please don't blame yourself you did everything you could. I am sure she appreciated very much having a son like you to do all you did for her. Just know that she is at peace now and looking down upon you with the same love she always had for you.
 

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

I have been the "black sheep" in the family and I have put "shame" to my Father's name, so many regrets.... but I have learned this lesson. Three R's

1. Remember - the goodness, sacrifices and memories of our love ones.
2. Review - our life, how are we living? Are we loving the living? Are we supposed to be the person we need to be?
3. Refocus - our direction, we need to straighten up our direction or act.

God bless!
 

jdino

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My condolences. From the little I know from here she raised a good son. And as they say the e apple doesn't fall far. She obviously taught you to care for others so I'm sure she was a caring person herself. God bless you and your family. Your Mom is safely home now.
 
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masterswimmer

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Jimmy, may your mom rest in peace. I'm so sorry for your loss.

With all you've done for your mom, the last thing you should do is think you were any less than a wonderful son.

God speed,
Russ
 

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Upon seeing this thread, I'm instantly shedding a tear, I can't hold back.

One of my worst fears in life is confronting my parents' passing - especially my mom's because well my dad drinks alky heavy, loves red meats and smokes, whereas my mom takes the best of care in her health and is a vegetarian now since my brother died in August.

My deepest condolences, Jimmy. Please please stay strong and remember she is at peace and remains in heart and soul.

RIP JIMMY'S MOM <3
 

edd

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sorry for your loss jimmy. you should realize that you gave your mom better care then she would have received else ware. my dad dealt with the same guilt when my mom passed.
 

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