Hello,
"Even then you are guessing as to how much p remover to run and at what rate and when to change it. Then you are guessing "
I reccommend that you test for P once a week. This yields very little guesswork and since this process goes slowly, I just can't agree.
Again, the powerhead in the sand is a mostly bacteria issue, not a phosphate issue. When securing a power head, I place the powerhead and secure it and as a backup, I secure the cord so if it dislodges, it doesn't have far to go. Yes, if it points straight down, it will disturb some of the bed but IME , I have had little or few losses this way. A tunze is a different story but is easier to secure using ties.
I have seen many corals (especially LPS) right on the sand. Also sand will collect in pockets on the reef from storms and animal action so sand is actually quite close.
I have never recharged my sand beds so the "life" in my beds is not as visible - but so what. At night it is covered with pods and mysis and even a few bristle worms show up. If the denitrification is occuring in the upper portion of the bed, I really don't care then. In my SPS tank, I have high flow which is enough to keep it relatively clean. In my other tank, I will get growth on the bed and I will siphon it off every couple of months if it mats but again, so what.
I will be setting up a 220 in the near future and will have to address this issue for that tank soon

I guess that if I try the faux sandbed and hated it, I could add sand on top of it hummmmmm.